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Addiction to Lie

Addiction to Lie

Addiction to Lie

One of the most tricky addiction to deal with is “being addicted to tell a lie” as you can never tell “what is the real truth?”.  The main frame of the addiction is being abused and bullied in the past and lying to escape a situation or safe guard oneself.

A most told parable during childhood is “to never tell a lie” aka telling lie can put you in grave danger and no one will believe even if you speak truth.

Also, lying about your addiction particularly about your addictive behaviour can become your second nature and you are bound to lie all the time even when they don’t want to and can have serious repercussions.  It can even give a false sense of power – “I got away with that.” But lying is extremely damaging to relationships, family members are often aware that they are being lied to, and many people with addictions would prefer to be more truthful, but just don’t know how.

This addiction in particular requires outmost care and a professional help must be sought. Often such individual lie because a sweet lie is easy, comforting than to reality or truth. They start telling lies to themselves and fall in the traps of other addictions like drinking, drugs or disorders like depression or anxiety.

If the below two or more are right for you, seek for professional support:

1.       Is it difficult to stop lying to yourself?

This might seem like a strange tip, but research shows that people with addictions actually do lie to themselves in a number of different ways like what they like to eat, behave, their likes or dislikes because no one believes them or give them due respect. With the result, they only start living in illusions. Being honest with oneself is basics that should be done no matter what. .

2.       Try to understand whom can you trust with this of your addiction and handle you for your best interest.

We always some people who will always want what is in our best interests, and they are a great place to start when being truthful is new. They may you doctor, any counsellors or therapists you may be seeing. These people are trained to understand and help people with addictions, but they can’t help you if you don’t tell them what is really going on. In fact, lying to your doctor about your addiction could even put you at risk of getting advice or a prescription that is the opposite of what you actually need. This could even cause you harm.

3. If you believe in that what you do is nobody else’s business so telling lie is fine?

Everyone has the right to privacy. The fact that you have an addiction is your private business, and you should be in control of who has access to that information. But in some cases, your addiction might also impact someone, making it their business, too.

Before writing off another person's right to know the truth about your addiction, think about whether it has any impact on them. Members of your immediate family, for example, will very likely be impacted by your addiction, even if it is simply by your lack of availability for your relationship with them. Anyone who may be affected by the consequences of your addiction also has a right to know the truth, including anyone you have hurt while under the influence.

3.       You fear coping up with the truth:

You may think you have to keep your addictive behavior secret from people you are close to, such as your partner, adult children, or your parents, because you think it would be more than they could cope with. Although they are likely to worry, in reality, they would have a much harder time coping with the serious consequences of your addiction, such as legal and health problems, if they were unaware of your addiction.

However, you should be careful in talking to young children about addictions, and this should ideally be done with the support of a trained family therapist. Having a parent who uses alcohol or drugs makes it more likely that your child will use these substances, so be careful about disclosure and particularly to never use alcohol or drugs in front of them, or offer them alcohol or drugs.

5. You fear that the close one may criticize you – but all they could do is just to listen.

The chances are that the news of your addiction will cause some initial upset. You may, indeed, be subject to criticism. You may also hear some negative comments which isn’t criticism, but which you perceive as such. It is therefore important to seek help from a coach to see the difference. It can be hard to know how to talk to someone with an addiction, especially if there have been past lies and hurts.

If the person in question cares about you, they will want what is best for you, which is that you are well and happy. They may have a period of adjustment as they accept your addiction, but they may also be your greatest source of support through overcoming your addiction. Also, knowing what is going on can help family members find their own support. You can also ask your loved one to listen without criticizing.

6. You tried in the past but they don’t understand – but maybe they could with a professional coach

Perhaps your loved one is not as worldly-wise as you, but they might be. And although you might think that understanding someone with an addiction is something they are not capable of, often people with addictions are surprised at how well their loved ones understand what they are going through. On the other hand, they may have a hard time understanding, but after a period of adjustment, may well do all they can to understand.

Many treatment services now offer education and support sessions for family members for precisely this reason. After learning about addiction, family members can be extremely supportive. Give your loved one the chance to understand by educating them about your condition.

7. You don’t Care About Them – But Maybe You Should

Sometimes people with addictions get into relationships with other people for what they can get out of it – money, drugs, sex and social status are all common motivators. But by being in exploitative relationships with other people, you are setting yourself up for more shame and regret than you realize.

You may not feel you are doing the other person any harm. You may even feel they are getting as much out of the relationship as you are. But the time you spend exploiting them is time neither of you will ever get back. You are essentially depriving them of the chance to have a genuine relationship with someone who really cares about them.

When the relationship ends, you will be left with the shame of knowing you have spoiled part of someone else’s life. These shameful feelings are very unpleasant, and can often make an addiction worse, as you attempt to escape them through addictive behaviour.

8. Allow completely Your Loved Ones the Gift of Forgiveness

By shackling your relationship with secrets and lies, you deny your loved one the opportunity to forgive you. They may be well aware of your lies, or at least suspect, but they can’t be freed from their hurt and resentment unless they know the truth. Then they have the option to forgive you for past lies and hurts. Of course, having your loved one’s forgiveness will probably feel pretty good to you too and may strengthen you bond

Apologize if you have hurt someone you love. They might just forgive you.

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